Stop faking it, it is a waste of time. Episode 5

A quote from Dr. Seuss

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

We are surrounded by self-help and inspirational quotes these days that all can make your head spin.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And, most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. ~Steve Jobs, Founder of Apple

We all search for understanding and knowledge daily. However, we also will put on a mask to interact with others because we want to be polite, not hurt anyone’s feelings, bow to authority, or not want to expose our true selves because we do not trust them.

Unmask the authentic self

Weeks before my mom passed away, I sat beside her, took a deep breath, and said, “I have no problem dealing with everything right now, and I have the strength to be here now, but I do not know how I will live without you.” The heavy doses of pain meds had started to take a very noticeable toll on her. Finally, she looked at me without expression and said, “You just do.”

There was nothing left to say right then. But, three simple words stuck with me after months and now years (going on three). YOU JUST DO!

I was not sure until recently how I have ‘just do’ every day.

Again, the self-help books that I was diving into were just a distraction, and I felt nothing really stuck to be able to help with whatever I needed help with.

That was the big one. “What the hell was my problem? What HELP was I looking for? If I was looking for my SELF, how did I lose myself in the first place?

Things that helped me start to heal (my way)

*Stop waiting for motivation. Just do…do it scared, do it honestly, do it from the heart, do it because you want to.

*Stop being so polite. Have you ever said yes to something you knew was wrong or even dangerous or let someone be an asshole by saying anything? You don’t owe life a compromise; you owe yourself a sincere expression of how you really feel and the hell with everyone, and I mean everyone else.

*Trauma in our lives teaches us; we learn life lessons and sometimes the hard way.

Searching for how the past played a part in who I am now.

*Trust your gut. Overthinking is one thing that helps me keep my mask on. What do people think? I have been able to talk myself out of things using the logic of others. When you go in a different direction, an overwhelming nagging feeling surfaces. Read the quote from Steve Jobs again.